Grandmother...

While rushing through the morning hustle bustle and going to office with a day packed with work, potluck and s seminar, the sad news of death of my grandmother clogs my mind. Tears roll down while I get some alone time in the bus.

She was my granny's younger sister, but we were close as we lived in the same building in our childhood. 

After my granny's death, we surely developed a new bond with her. My brother and I had never lived without our granny and took time to come to terms with her death. She was such an anchor during that phase. We would take out stupid reasons like reading magazines and visit her just to be around her. In her company we found a lot of solace then. Slowly as college and work started eating a lot of our time, the interactions became scarce, even fewer after marriage, but the strong bond remained. 

I still remember whenever I gave her something when we met, she would refuse it. Only my insistence that I don't need a reason to buy saree for her would make her accept it with eyes filled with tears of joy.

I remember so many things even today and can relate to how my mom and mom-in-law behave with my kids!

Would miss you Aaji, this one is for you

Grandmother is such a blessing
Pouring all the love but expecting nothing

She was traditional yet with an open mind

Gentle loving caring and kind

She would always say "things were not so in my times"

But wouldn't pull us back from enjoying our times

We could see joy in her eyes when we smiled

And sadness and hidden tears when we cried

We could see the pride when we achieved something 

And "don't worry, it's alright" in the consoling

We knew there is someone to hide behind

When words mom and dad said were not so kind

We were so lucky to have you grandma

Wish we could pass on such love around

Buying of iPhone 6S, thoda fun, thoda style

Buying of iPhone thoda fun, thoda style

This custom shop which is about 200 meters  from my home is a favourite for us to buy electronic stuff after for almost everything we bought from there has been pretty cheaper against other places.

We have bought many phones, misc electronic items and even our Sony Bravia LED TV from there. As i get ready when I go to the malls or any big ticket shops, I don't really do that for this one. Almost all of our purchases have been when we were sitting idle at home and then "let's go and buy, we have thought for enough number of days" kind of. 

My first iPhone was 3GS and was bought for me by a relative from US. After a couple of years I bought 4S. When we went to this shop to buy, the boy who was getting it readied for us treated me like a neighbourhood bhabhiji who may not be aware of many technical stuff but got lucky as she got gifted a good phone by her husband. He explained to me that the phone is very good I will be able to click photos or videos and also be able to use net from the phone. I enjoyed the conversation and kept checking with him what all can be done using this good phone. Incidentally that's when I was working on development of a native iPhone app for my customer!

Buying a new phone was on my mind for a long time and I visited the shop many times checking for the prices of iPhone 5, 5s. Finally yesterday we went and gathered courage to buy a 6S. And as usual this guy offered it at a price that was lower than other shops or even what the online giants offered.

With the huge amount of money I have now spent on the phone contributing significantly to the bottom line of Apple, I was really excited and worried about this new investment!

My husband too cared for the same and started checking if we can get a sturdier cover that can protect the phone better. Now was the time for another enlightening talk by the salesman. He asks, "sir! Why do people buy iPhone?". We allowed him to go on. My husband mentioned that his wife I e me goes to office and is a big officer. I was controlling my laughter as I could see the salesman looking at me and saying "really?" in his mind! Then he went on to enlighten us that people buy it for style, status and image. I suddenly felt like being a stylish corporate woman with a great image, the likes that we see in advertisements or movies flaunting all latest gadgets as I walk in my heels! He mentioned that iPhone is bought to be flaunted and not hidden under the flap cover like the others! My husband truly enjoyed the conversation to have the person spill few more pearls of wisdom!

There you go, every purchase of iPhone comes to me with a lot of free advice on what these products are, why are they bought and how to use them for photos, videos etc. Apple ka Apple, discount ka discount and entertainment ka entertainment.

As per my Salesman, I can use this phone for at least next 4 years with the best of things inside. Another interesting conversation awaits me after 4 years then :)

How did I feel after owning the new iPhone 6S? Awesome, it's just so beautiful! Just that I read a post on value for money on buying iPhone 6s, how someone could buy 10 different electronic devices in the same price. 

Next day I go to the office, show it (or maybe flaunt it) to my friends and colleagues. Everyone loves it and asks me how do I feel. My answer: I feel like carrying the weight of 2 air conditioners in my pocket! My husband's take, he sees a bike when he sees my iPhone and asks me what do i feel would be ahold parking space. And my kids are all set to experiment whatever they see in the TV advertisement. They have already flaunted in their friend circle that their mother bought iPhone 6S!

Colours of navaratri - part 2

I spoke about the actual colours of navaratri earlier, but all over India navaratri indeed has it's own colours of celebration.

My kids love the dandiya celebrations we have in our society, looking forward to getting decked up in specific colours. When I mentioned to my daughter that I never played garba in my childhood, her eyes were astonished with "then what did u do?" look. 

Mind travelled a few decades back in a flash seconds and brought alive My fond memories of navaratri, special puja at home, aarti every night including the long 10 stanza of ambabai, the bhondala that we played with great excitement with all my friends, the sweets and then the orange coloured dassera with marigold flowers everywhere. My father would also take us to mahalakshmi temple during navaratri and Ganesh temple on dassera.

In my husband's family there is a special puja of goddess mahalakshmi in the temple on the 8th day. I love the way the festivities are done there. Big idol of the goddess, all ladies decked up to do the puja, songs being sung without any fanfare by elderly ladies, the night surely has it's own charm.

In North India it's different celebration, a lot of people fast for 9 days, there is a girl child pujan and then ram leela followed by ravan dahan on dassera.

Great fanfare is in Kolkata and in east, where the pujo is a community event. I am awed by the grandeur of the goddesses that are out up and worshipped. The powai Bengali association's Durga puja is a must visit for me during navaratri.

All in all it's all about celebrating the female divine power winning over the devils. Great way to celebrate the victory. While I enjoy the positivities in the air, a part of me is pulled down by the constant violence that women face even today. It's so disheartening to hear about atrocities with 3 such small girls during navaratri, one wants to believe that it's a false news. The demons are all around us, when are we going to win over them! Safety and dignity is what the durga's of today need. They can then achieve almost everything thereafter. Amen!

Colours of Navaratri - Part 1

What really is the magic behind the 9 colours of navaratri that we follow here in Mumbai and Maharashtra 

If you see in general the ladies want to stand out in terms of their dress and look in general. If we find others wearing similar kind of clothes or even same colours. We kind of find it embarrassing. We feel the uniqueness lost somehow.

Come navaratri and everything changes. Lemme talk more in mumbai's context. There have been years when many ladies in mumbai who may or may not wear sarees when they go to work. Would make it  a point to wear one during navaratri. In the spirit of the festive season, it would typically be a fancy Saree not a regular one. I also did that for a couple of years some time back.

More interesting are the colours that are followed during this period. 

Almost everywhere you would see the waves of a particular colour designated for that day. It's not only ladies flashing their fancy sarees, but young girls matching their kurtis or even western dresses to the colour of the day. Whatsapp messages, emails are floated informing each other of the colours in advance, so we are prepared in advance. 




My kids also want to ensure they wear the colour of the day when they go down to play dandiya. Moreover the boys and men also try to match the colours as much (at least on the white, blue days).

Trying to analyze the contrast shown by our behavior during the navaratri days to our usual quest if being unique in the way we are dressed. Is it a big community feeling that gets us to do that? Is it team spirit? Compliance? Friendly competitiveness? Is it a lot of fun? Is it being different than everyday, is it showing we are all together? Is it celebrating oneness? 

Isn't this phenomenon worth studying from a psychology perspective? Or will they simply term it as mob mentality? Well.,. I don't think anyone cares about it at all... It's probably a lot of fun that won't repeat for another year, so lemme instead worry about finding a white Saree to be wore to office for Monday to celebrate the white colour and traditional day call :) I don't want to be left out ;)